Do you have any close friends? Do you have someone you love or hate? Have you ever asked yourselves why you love or hate them? I have someone I love. I have lot of people I am neutral with. I have none to hate. I love them because they do a lot of things I like and I am happy to be around them and do what they want me to act. I have none to hate, because every time I have someone around me who do what I hate or hurt my feelings, I use them to learn about life and always try to find ways to make my life better. The scale of how big my feelings to other people, I call it “Friendship Point”.
How Friendship Point Works?
Every time I am around people, including around your mom and both of you, I always imagine a horizontal bar above your head. From left to right. From Minus 100% (-100%) to Plus 100% (+100%) with Zero (0) at the center of the bar. Every time I interact with people, my mind is like calculating how much your friendship point to me. I always behave and act around people so I keep their Friendship Point to me to be neutral or a bit to the right. But if I like you or I need you, I will do many more things that you like so that your Friendship Point to me is going far right. For me, the more people with high Friendship Point around me is better. High Friendship Point means they trust you, they are happy to be around you and help you. When this happens, many positive things will happen in your life.
For most people I will behave and act to make their Friendship Point a bit to the right, but I have no regret to everything I have done. I have told the exact same joke to Two different people. One of them laughed, and the other seemed to be unhappy. I have ever done the right thing and one of my friend hated me for doing so. I have done the wrong thing and some one love me. So what should I do then? — Remember Event + Response = Outcome Formula – “Jack Canfield, The Success Principle”? I always use that for most people. I do what I should do towards my goal. And whatever happens to their Friendship Point to me, I don’t care.
I have difficulties in remembering roads. Seems that I have a really low skill in scouting. Once, your grandpa had ever told your mom that I have no interest in taking your grandpa and grandma to the airport when they needed to, because I always asked which way to go, every time I reached junction. Grandpa thoughts that I should have known that common roads. If I kept asking which way to go, meant that I kept asking on purpose to make your grandpa uncomfortable. When I knew it from your mom, I asked myself what I should do. Do I need to explain it? I chose to keep silent and didn’t care about it. Days had passed, and when your grandpa knew I was having wrong turns so many times, he then thought and realized that I didn’t do it on purpose and grandpa’s Friendship Point to me was going a bit to the right.
How to Handle Friendship Point?
As long as I do everything towards my goal, I don’t care about their Friendship Point to me. I believe that people around me who understand my goal, will stay near. Those who don’t, will leave and I don’t need them anyway to achieve my goal. However here, your goal is very important. I hope that your goal will have a good effect on you and people around you. What is good? What is bad? Nothing is good and nothing is bad. But every decision which is going towards violence and hatred is always bad.